Listening can be particularly trying when the content is cyclical with no end. The typical love search scenario goes like this: A meets B, A builds entire (ie. emotional) life around B, B freaks out and runs away, A gets confused and hurt...later A meets C, A builds entire (ie. emotional) life around C...
The thing is, people who repeatedly find and lose potential life partners rarely love (in the giving sense) those they're trying to hold onto. You get this sense when what they share is never about admirable qualities of the person they want; rather, it is about what they did, what they said and what do those things mean regarding the permanence of the relationship. In other words, they're fixated on having someone to meet their needs, and not necessarily loving someone.
Of course, all of us pursue life partners at least partly for selfish reasons(!). But when we become so consumed with our desire that it overshadows our ability to love someone for who they are, then the relationship is destined for failure.
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